Thanks, Tom. I am grateful to you for helping me (begin to) understand Substack, and for your two recent Likes. It is quite kind and collegial of you to share the reputational clout you have built over your many prolific years.
As I've said elsewhere before, in 1996-97, I was engaged to an 'Ardent' Feminist (there is another word I could use that starts with an 'R' and ends with a 'd'), back when I believed the lie it was about Men & Women being treated with equal value.
I found out though, that any time we had a disagreement, any time I corrected her, she would get angry at me beyond any reasonable measure. This caused me to hold my tongue more & more, as I loved her and I didn't want to fight. Eventually though, issues came up I could not be silent about and because I loved the Truth more than her Feelings, she left, calling me, 'The most abusive Man she'd ever known.'
In the aftermath, knowing that her Feminist Ideology was a core issue, but not knowing exactly why, I did a ton of research. This included reading the book she called her, 'Bible' (That's "Secret Survivors", by E. Sue Blume) In that book, Blume, a respected Feminist author, states Flat-Out that Men are abusive by *Nature*, while Women cannot be abusive under *Any* circumstances.
That was my Rosetta Stone. Like a Key fitting in a Lock, once I read that, nearly all of my Ex's behavior made sense. (Honestly I was surprised she'd even *have* a relationship with a Guy believing this.) It made me even more sad & angry that this young woman I had loved, who had a host of issues & needed real help, was being led astray by a Worldview doing her no favors & leading her further into darkness.
Sadly, what I went through was just a microcosm of what all of Western Culture is now experiencing.
That's a powerful story. Overall, do you think you are happier for having stood up for your views in the matter of your shared relationship, even though it led to the demise of that relationship, or do you sometimes think you might have been better off making the continuation of the relationship your priority regardless of the cost to your personal integrity? Is integrity even the right word here? If it is, do you think appealing to men's integrity might accelerate a balanced resolution of this sorry state we're in?
I had friends who (after the fact, of course) told me that they could see me 'boxing' myself up more & more to avoid offending her. She eventually decided to see everything I did in the worst possible light and that made it a no-win scenario.
No relationship should exist where one of the partners (today, primarily Men) has to hide, not just personal preferences, but fundamental core beliefs of how the world works.
What's happening now though, is a turbocharged version of something that Men & Women have been dealing with since the word, 'Go'. Regardless of whether or not one believes the Bible to be real history or not, the reasons for Adam & Eve's fall & expulsion from the Garden deals directly with what is happening today.
It's a common misconception that when the Serpent made his offer to Eve- 'You shall be like God, knowing Good from Evil.' That it was some kind of big Expositional Knowledge-Dump, where she would learn what good and evil *were*. Many cults, including the Freemasons, thus credit Lucifer as the savior, the 'Light-Bringer', who shared this supposed knowledge with us. However, the truth couldn't be more different.
The ancient Hebrew word for, 'Know', is a MARITAL term. As in, a Husband, 'knowing' his Wife. It literally means- 'To Take Possession of.' So, what the Serpent actually promised Eve was- 'You shall be like God, DECIDING what is Good and what is Evil.' That Postmodern/Relativist thought (which now dominates Western Society) teaches good and evil are merely social constructs, is no accident. That Feminism is also cornerstoned on Women being able to make their own decisions, totally free from all restrictions (especially Male 'oppression'), is too close to this to be an accident. Feminism was created superbly to weaponize Women's darkest natures.
As to Men's reaction to all this, that original story also gets to the core of things. We are told that from Eve's decision to eat from the Tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil, Adam was WITH HER. He was with her, and LET it happen. One could make the argument that he feared losing her, so followed her into darkness. However, putting her above God meant that he ultimately lost both her AND God.
Again, regardless of whether or not one believes this, in a sense this is exactly what is happening today. Too many Men go into, 'Yes Dear', mode, capitulating to a Woman's desires (demands) because they'd rather have peace than conflict. Ultimately this creates resentment and disgust in the Woman, as she (consciously or not) realizes she can dominate the Man. It was not meant to be this way and even the most hard-core Feminist can't help but react to it.
Given modern culture and especially the support of the Government, even NOT giving in may result in the death of the relationship and the Woman leaving, but it is better by far to lose standing for what is right, rather than what is convenient.
Well said Jack. There is a huge case for feminist libel and slander. I loved the image!
Thanks, Tom. I am grateful to you for helping me (begin to) understand Substack, and for your two recent Likes. It is quite kind and collegial of you to share the reputational clout you have built over your many prolific years.
Cool, I had forgotten all about Chip and Dan! I liked the visuals as well!
'Feminist Libel and Slander', Indeed.
As I've said elsewhere before, in 1996-97, I was engaged to an 'Ardent' Feminist (there is another word I could use that starts with an 'R' and ends with a 'd'), back when I believed the lie it was about Men & Women being treated with equal value.
I found out though, that any time we had a disagreement, any time I corrected her, she would get angry at me beyond any reasonable measure. This caused me to hold my tongue more & more, as I loved her and I didn't want to fight. Eventually though, issues came up I could not be silent about and because I loved the Truth more than her Feelings, she left, calling me, 'The most abusive Man she'd ever known.'
In the aftermath, knowing that her Feminist Ideology was a core issue, but not knowing exactly why, I did a ton of research. This included reading the book she called her, 'Bible' (That's "Secret Survivors", by E. Sue Blume) In that book, Blume, a respected Feminist author, states Flat-Out that Men are abusive by *Nature*, while Women cannot be abusive under *Any* circumstances.
That was my Rosetta Stone. Like a Key fitting in a Lock, once I read that, nearly all of my Ex's behavior made sense. (Honestly I was surprised she'd even *have* a relationship with a Guy believing this.) It made me even more sad & angry that this young woman I had loved, who had a host of issues & needed real help, was being led astray by a Worldview doing her no favors & leading her further into darkness.
Sadly, what I went through was just a microcosm of what all of Western Culture is now experiencing.
That's a powerful story. Overall, do you think you are happier for having stood up for your views in the matter of your shared relationship, even though it led to the demise of that relationship, or do you sometimes think you might have been better off making the continuation of the relationship your priority regardless of the cost to your personal integrity? Is integrity even the right word here? If it is, do you think appealing to men's integrity might accelerate a balanced resolution of this sorry state we're in?
I had friends who (after the fact, of course) told me that they could see me 'boxing' myself up more & more to avoid offending her. She eventually decided to see everything I did in the worst possible light and that made it a no-win scenario.
No relationship should exist where one of the partners (today, primarily Men) has to hide, not just personal preferences, but fundamental core beliefs of how the world works.
What's happening now though, is a turbocharged version of something that Men & Women have been dealing with since the word, 'Go'. Regardless of whether or not one believes the Bible to be real history or not, the reasons for Adam & Eve's fall & expulsion from the Garden deals directly with what is happening today.
It's a common misconception that when the Serpent made his offer to Eve- 'You shall be like God, knowing Good from Evil.' That it was some kind of big Expositional Knowledge-Dump, where she would learn what good and evil *were*. Many cults, including the Freemasons, thus credit Lucifer as the savior, the 'Light-Bringer', who shared this supposed knowledge with us. However, the truth couldn't be more different.
The ancient Hebrew word for, 'Know', is a MARITAL term. As in, a Husband, 'knowing' his Wife. It literally means- 'To Take Possession of.' So, what the Serpent actually promised Eve was- 'You shall be like God, DECIDING what is Good and what is Evil.' That Postmodern/Relativist thought (which now dominates Western Society) teaches good and evil are merely social constructs, is no accident. That Feminism is also cornerstoned on Women being able to make their own decisions, totally free from all restrictions (especially Male 'oppression'), is too close to this to be an accident. Feminism was created superbly to weaponize Women's darkest natures.
As to Men's reaction to all this, that original story also gets to the core of things. We are told that from Eve's decision to eat from the Tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil, Adam was WITH HER. He was with her, and LET it happen. One could make the argument that he feared losing her, so followed her into darkness. However, putting her above God meant that he ultimately lost both her AND God.
Again, regardless of whether or not one believes this, in a sense this is exactly what is happening today. Too many Men go into, 'Yes Dear', mode, capitulating to a Woman's desires (demands) because they'd rather have peace than conflict. Ultimately this creates resentment and disgust in the Woman, as she (consciously or not) realizes she can dominate the Man. It was not meant to be this way and even the most hard-core Feminist can't help but react to it.
Given modern culture and especially the support of the Government, even NOT giving in may result in the death of the relationship and the Woman leaving, but it is better by far to lose standing for what is right, rather than what is convenient.