The Theory of Our Case
It's not about feminism going “too far,” but about men getting where we want, deserve and need to be.
It’s not about feminism going “too far,” but about men getting “close enough.”
Feminism is brilliant in its efforts to control the narrative of gender issues, to set the agenda, to ridicule the need for male-aware additions to the gender-equality agenda, to insist that there is no justification in pursuing progress for men “until women achieve full equality” and because “women still have so far to go…”
Feminists want the issue to be about a supposed male protest that women have “gone too far” because there will never be a time for their organizational and job security purposes when they can say they have gone far enough.
But that issue is only the bait for the trap into which feminism wants to entangle men.
The actual progressive male agenda, which feminism reactionarily attempts to scuttle at every turn, is not that women have gone too far, but that men for myriad reasons have not gone far enough. Men want and deserve full and equal access to the traditional female domain just as women have deserved and demanded full and equal access to the traditional domain of men.
Those two spheres of influence, power structures if you will, look like this.
Is there anyone who can honestly say that men and boys have as much access to women’s Heartland as women and girls now have to men’s Business Park?
Is there anyone who can say that the Heart is less important to a happy human life than the Dollar Sign?
Is there anyone who believes that men have been as successful in gaining what is missing in their lives as women have been in demanding what they want and need?
Is there anyone who believes that women, in general, have been as supportive and fair to men being invited into the Circle of Women as men in general, even if belatedly and reluctantly, have been to women achieving equality on the Pyramid of Men?
Do we not understand that much of what calls itself Feminism these days isn’t about achieving fairness for women nearly so much as it is about fostering anti-male bigotry to keep men out of the nicer parts of town? Feminism’s roadblocks look like this…
Is that hornet’s nest of anti-male stereotyping essentially any different from the word cloud we could have created in the 1960s about why women weren’t welcome on the Pyramid?
With feminism focusing so exclusively on women as an isolated unit and ignoring how women and men interact in a complex social ecosystem, is there any doubt why so many men and so many truly egalitarian women are thoroughly disappointed with today’s dominant strain of feminism?
The way to arrive at equality isn’t to keep advancing women alone, with inevitably decreasing marginal returns and increasing stress on the social ecosystem. Our ecosystem demands that we start working to make sure men go — and are supported to go—far enough.
Sharing is caring. And in sharing the Heart, women will be sharing the love. Isn’t that what we all need right now?
Or do the most influential among us find it in their interests to cling to and even promote the stereotype that men don’t care about the Heart, don’t know about caring, and the Circle, therefore, is as big as it needs to be?
